Burn-out is a big issue that has had a lot of research in the past years. It gets more clear that in order to understand the burn-out syndrome, the whole person has to be looked at and that the burnt-out person needs support on many levels:
- Physical like rest, light exercise, stress-reduced day schedule;
- Emotional such as personal empowerment;
- Mental such as forming a loving self-image and positive behavior.
Here at the Humaniversity we create a safe environment to work on all these levels.
Working on emotions is a healing key for a burnt-out person as it brings back the will to express and say 'Yes' to life. Expressing yourself emotionally brings the person back in their power. The message is then understood by every cell in the body as "I am lovable!" ...and the hormones start balancing like "I have the right!" ...and the immune system starts defending like "I can do it!" ...and the digestive system produces enzymes and bile etc.
Here we also give support when you want to reduce 'energy-robbing' habits like drinking too much coffee, smoking, eating too much sweets, isolating and more.
Sometimes a burn-out symptom has medical reasons or includes physical symptoms. Then we also offer natural healing methods for recovery such as massage, acupuncture, AcuEnergetics, colon-hydro-therapy, herbal/ homeopathic remedies, detox and cleansing diets.
Being burnt-out means that literally your energy is burned up... you are depleted. And in this case the smartest solution is to stop and look what is actually robbing your energy!
Here is the story of Jinendra, how he managed to turn a crisis into a situation that improved his whole life quality for the better.
Jinendra recognized his energy-robbers right away:
- colleagues (no appreciation, no satisfying contact)
- co-dependency patterns, eg. taking the position that "I am not okay" robs a lot of energy
- working without breaks
Creating and recovering from burn-out
An personal experience from Jinendra
In this article I describe the process of creating and recovering from a burn-out. I also describe the insights it gave me and the lessons I am learning from it. Before I go into what happened to me I want to acknowledge Premdip for seeing where I was at and pulling the emergency brake for me. At that time I was so far lost that I could not see or respond adequately to my condition anymore. I also want to acknowledge Sangitama who supported me very professionally, effective and dedicated as always. She suggested to focus on the physical level and proposed to me to use the next Veeresh workshop which I could do to recharge and heal myself on an emotional level.
I was already aware for a while that I was exhausting myself at my work. I kept myself going in a stressed way for a great number of weeks or probably even months. I could see myself drinking more and more coffee, smoking more and more cigarettes in a way which I was not enjoying. I found myself getting lost in details, not being able to focus any more. Taking in feedback or being approached with additional questions to the challenges I was already dealing with became more and more difficult to handle without reacting or sometimes even freaking out. I was still keeping things together as good as possible in order not to collapse. Instead of starting to slowdown I felt so bad about myself that I tried to do even more. Without success of course. I was aware that my energy level was very low and had already made an appointment with Sangitama to let her check me out. This appointment was planned to happen two days after I collapsed in my Encounter Vision Day. During this day Premdip supported me by pulling my brake and make me stop my unhealthy behaviour. Only then could I finally admit my condition and surrender.
Wikipedia on burn-out
According to Wikipedia burn-out is a process of depersonalisation, in which people tend to become cynical and are losing the feeling of being competent.
When a condition of burn-out is scientifically tested than it is done along three axes:
- emotional exhaustion
- feeling incompetent
I can see I was moving along these axes. I was convincing myself that I was not ok again and again. I was feeling too much responsible for too many things and this felt hardly bearable for already an extended period of time. I started to isolate, communicate less and less and was trying to become as invisible as possible. Both at my work, in our community and in my role as a father I felt more and more incompetent. I was very much in a survival mode and it felt there was no space for me to be happy anymore.
According to Wikipedia typical burn-out situations are situations in which there is:
- emotional over-exhaustion
- a feeling of being out of control over the situation you are in
- lack of acknowledgement of what you give
- lack of honesty, having the feeling of not being treated fair
- a feeling a conflict of values
I experienced a lot of indifference with my colleagues. I tried to do my work in accordance with my personal values of quality and accountability. I hardly received any appreciation for my efforts and was too stubborn to adjust to my client's values. I was very much in the position "I am better than you" and was fighting to prove it to them also. I kept myself going by disconnecting from my body, breathing very shallow in order not to feel, isolating myself in order to avoid confrontation. I did not share with my friends out of shame of not being able to cope with my work. Just before reporting sick I felt totally out of control in my work. After a few hours of having started my sick-leave I began to really see and feel that I was actually totally exhausted.
Just before "collapsing" I was already looking forward to my upcoming first TT-4 assisting group (AUM -marathon) which would start in a few days. I would be very disappointed if I would have had to miss this group. I also had already fixed an appointment with Sangitama on Wednesday before the group. Both proved later to be the exact support I needed to recover asap from my burnout.
Sangitama's recovery plan was a big surprise for me. Instead on putting me on medical and "forcing" me to rest she proposed to me that she would take care of me on a physical level and that I would use the AUM marathon for emotional expression and stress release. During the intense marathon I could "ask" and get any extra rest whenever I would feel I would need it. She even gave me the assignment to take breaks for a walk during house care times even if I would not need it (just to practice to take care of myself). She gave me number of food supplements and natural medicines to detoxify my body, to give a natural boost to my energy level and to bring certain "good feeling" hormones to a more healthy level again. I used the meditations in the AUM marathon to release my tension and let-go in freak-outs and express myself totally. In two weeks I felt strong enough to go back to work. Sangitama's plan worked very well. Instead of being sick for many months I could start working (and earning money again) within circa two weeks.
Back at my work I shared that "it" had become too much for me in the last couple of months and that I made a decision not to get burnt-out again. I finished my contract in a decent way, doing my job as good as I could in a more relaxed way. I finished it with preparing a clear transmission, cleaned my desk and said good bye. At that time I still felt some resentment.... Now I know better.....
In order to avoid another burn-out I work on the following:
- Make sure that I work in such a way that it gives at least as much energy as it takes
- Clearly express my needs to achieve, watch my stubbornness and be light
- Make sure that I stay connected with my body (breath out deeply)
- Share how I feel and when it becomes too much for me
- Stay connected, especially with my friends
- Stop abusing my body with the way I smoke my cigarettes and drink too much coffee
- Respect my boundaries and say clearly NO when needed and YES when appropriate
- Stop paying a price for love
- Follow my heart and be REAL in a gentle way
- Change rationalizing into meditating
- Make a chart of steps to take to create my dream in order to create a happier life
I can see that I am on my way and that I am in a process; I understand that to enjoy the journey to get to the goal is as important as to reach it.